there was a religion that the family was associated with, was dangerous and percent kate-- purse cuted. there was not a future for him. they figured out to have not only a future but how to express this extraordinary thing he had inside him that is the remarkable story. >> rose: what de teach you about love. >> he teaches that you can write brilliantly about love without ever fully having it. >> what does that say? >> it says that he longed for something deeply, that he never fully acquired and never fully achieved in his life. >> rose: exception in his imagination. >> in his imagination and perhaps at certain delirious moments but never as far as we can tell, this is someone without has written the greatest body of love poetry in our language but go paragraph about relationships that cannot be sustained. >> okay, but dow just enjoy it and recognize it for its brilliance or do you say it is something that i assimilated and made me understand about? >> we are -- >> more than relationships. >> it starts with pleasure. and maybe it ends with pleasure so that the pleasure is actually cruci